I haven’t had to deal with any mean lolitas in person. If I did, I probably would apologize and then not say anything. All the mean lolita stuff I’ve encountered happens online. I used to step in and try to defend my friends and myself but now I just ignore it completely. There’s no point to argue with anonymous people online. You’ll never get anywhere with it or solve anything.
My policy always is, if you have a problem with me, if I did something to upset you, let me know and I’ll apologize! Or if you just don’t like me I’ll leave you alone.
I have had lolitas do that and we’ve been able to work things out. I still wouldn’t consider that a mean lolita though. I’d say a mean lolita is somebody who doesn’t want to fix anything and is just out to hurt someone’s feelings.
Does all that make sense? I hope so. I hope you aren’t dealing with any mean lolitas! Just remember